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Narcissism is often confused with being vain, shallow, or superficial, and although these traits often accompany Narcissistic people, actual Narcissism runs much deeper. Although there are many types of Narcissism, in this blog we will primarily be talking about the mid-grade Grandiose Narcissist.

We don't know exactly what causes Narcissism, however, we know that what defines a Narcissist is the lack of self-awareness, empathy, and a pathological need for constant attention, validation, and/or admiration. Since the Narcissist believes the world revolves around them and their needs, they are in constant search for people who will give them what they're looking for (narcissistic supply), and will behave in a way that gets them what they want. In the beginning they'll usually come off as charming, attentive, and seem to value people in order to continue receiving the attention and validation they're searching for. If they're not getting what they need, or are bored with the supply, they will move on leaving people devalued, ignored, discarded, or worse...

Those who have suffered the devastation of Narcissistic abuse know all too well the confusion, heart break, and disillusionment that accompany it. Narcissistic abuse is different than other types of abuse as it's mainly psychological and emotional, and although there are rarely physical abuse signs that go along with it, the effects of Narcissistic abuse are equally as traumatic. Because there are no physical signs, and Narcissists will usually only show their dark side to those closest to them, they may be seen by others as kind, friendly, and charming. This is equally problematic because victims are then rarely believed when they seek help or support.

People in Narcissistic relationships end up with side effects that leave them confused and questioning their own reality after being constantly gaslighted into thinking that what they're seeing, hearing, or experiencing isn't really what's happening. They are also frequently invalidated, neglected, discarded, and/or controlled. Abuse can be in the form of ongoing passive aggressive remarks, constant criticisms, complete control of time, money, and sense of self, lack of empathy, and rage filled fits if standards are not met. Long term abuse leaves victims feeling hopeless, helpless, inadequate, and unsure of themselves. They are in a constant state of anxiety and fear, trying to make sense of the chaos, trying not to upset the Narcissist, walking on egg shells, and questioning their self worth.

Although it's not easy, If you've been in a Narcissistic abusive relationship it IS possible to get out and take back control of your life. Nobody should be in a relationship that's abusive in any way. Everyone should be loved, heard, appreciated, and feel SAFE with the people around them.

If this sounds familiar to you and you're looking for clarity, understanding, and support, book a free consultation. Also check back for more posts as we explore the devastating and confusing world of Narcissism.... AND how to free yourself from it, so you can get your power back!

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