Finding Our Inner Faith

It seems that when life gets tough our first instinct is to try harder, which makes sense, we're conditioned by society to think that if something isn't working it's because we're not putting our all into it. If we feel like our life is unraveling because we're not doing enough, we think we need to do more. If a relationship isn't working we frantically try to put it back in place. If circumstances are beyond our control we panic and try to fix it even though it's out of our hands. We do this with the best intentions, wanting to do what we can to make things right, however, most of the time this doesn't work because it's coming from a place of fear instead of a place of peace.

When we let fear take over instead of staying in peace we enter into flight or fight mode. This is the primitive part of the brain we use when we're trying to survive and, although it comes in handy when we're in real danger, it's not helpful when we're problem solving and need to think outside the box. We will only have access to the problem solving part of our brain (the pre-frontal cortex) when we're calm, cool, and collected.

However, when there's a problem that's out of our control, instead of going in circles trying to figure it out we need to let it go and come back to peace. Martha Beck says, "It's when you surrender to falling apart, and fall forward instead, that love catches you and miracles begin to happen." This feels hard to do... letting go of wanting to control the outcome... and almost impossible to feel peaceful about it. However, I've found the moment I give in and realize maybe this is happening for a reason I start to have faith that everything will be okay and then I begin to feel peace.

The older we get, the more experiences we have and the more experiences we have, the more we learn to find this feeling... the peace within ourselves. Sometimes it takes wearing ourselves out from all the trying, but when this happens it's a clue that Instead of looking for outside sources or trying harder, it's time to get still, find the quiet place... the place deep inside that says all is well... and surrender to the falling apart. And this is when the magic begins...

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